Tuesday, September 26, 2017


Loving Unwed Couple - Song of Solomon 2:3-4
Believers are constantly under attack to sin against God through the use of their bodies, which are temples of the Holy Spirit. Our bodies and minds can be made impure by our lust for food, pleasure, sexual intercourse, praise, success, money, and a host of other things. However, God created us to be sexual beings, not just spiritual, and there is nothing in the Bible that says we have to be sexually inactive to be pure, but only that we should not act as harlots do because our bodies serve as Temples of the Holy Spirit:
1 Corinthians 6:15-20 ~ “Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! 16 Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” 17 But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. 18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
Sexual foreplay outside of the act of intercourse is not dirty, but beautiful in the eyes of our God when it is shared between a married or unmarried man and a woman that love and are committed to each other. Notice I said sexual FOREPLAY. Most believers don't understand that the kind of sexual sin the Bible speaks of centers around the act of sexual intercourse, not kissing or hugging or fondling one another. Fornication is sexual intercourse, not foreplay. So when we engage in sexual intercourse with someone other than our spouse or chosen mate, we anger God immensely in our adultery.

Many Christians don't understand the need for commitment before intimacy, and therefore equate ANY kind of sexual pleasure with sin. But it is not a sin to engage in sexual foreplay unless we want it from someone who is not our chosen mate in a committed relationship, or if we fantasize about intercourse with someone we are not married to. That is the kind of temptation we need to rein in and commit to Christ, asking Him to help us to flee from the sins of lust and fornication, just as the Patriarch Joseph fled from it when, as a slave in a rich Egyptian estate, he was tempted by the high priest Potiphar's wicked wife (Genesis 39). One way to turn away from sexual sin is to turn all our sexuality and desire over to God, and allow Him to redirect that sexual energy in a healthy and non-sinful manner.

There are other factors to take into consideration regarding sexual satisfaction that believers need to wake up to, besides fidelity in relationships and avoiding intercourse outside of marriage. One of these factors is that some of us are married to spouses that are incapable of, or unwilling to fulfill their ordinary sexual duties, and therefore leave their spouses with unfulfilled sexual desires. I and many others are victims of this, and I once thought that this meant that I had to squelch all sexual desires and become a virtual nun, not thinking about sexual pleasure at all.

I did this for a long time until I did not feel any sexual desire anymore. But after 7 years of suppressing all of my sexual desires, I started to get deathly ill. One contributing factor to this is the fact that my marriage is not a healthy one sexually, spiritually or emotionally because I am unequally yoked to a man who literally lied about his commitment to God to get me into his life, and the Bible offers stern warnings about being unequally yoked for this very reason:
2 Corinthians 6:14-18 ~ “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? 15 And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? 16 And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
“I will dwell in them
And walk among them.
I will be their God,
And they shall be My people.”
(Lev. 26:12; Jer. 32:38; Ezek. 37:27)
17 Therefore
“Come out from among them
And be separate, says the Lord.
Do not touch what is unclean,
And I will receive you.”
(Isaiah 52:11; Ezek. 20:34, 41)
18 “I will be a Father to you,
And you shall be My sons and daughters,
Says the Lord Almighty.” (2 Samuel 7:14)”
As I've grown in my walk with Yahweh God, I've learned that being spiritually at odds with your spouse or significant other is a very difficult thing to endure. So it is best to be strictly avoided. Also, in regard to our position as Temples of the Living God and our need to be equally yoked for peace to reign in our lives, I've learned something important about the godly ways to approach sex, sports and the pursuit of fitness that every believer needs to know.

You see, through my ever-expanding knowledge of the symbolic Language of God that is allegorically hidden in many facets of human existence, the Lord slowly awakened my knowledge that there are numerous lymph ducts and nodes around our sexual organs and other sensory areas of our bodies where we can feel physical pleasure, like in our necks, chests, shoulders, and in the sensitive areas under our arms and around our ears. To see the proof of this, look at this diagram of the lymphatic system in a woman, and note all the small round lymph nodes attached to each other by vein-like lymph ducts in the chest, arms, and groin area:

Diagram of the Lymphatic System
These lymph nodes and ducts are full of lymphatic fluid, which is meant to help purify our bodies and remove harmful toxins. As a result, when our lymph system gets filled with toxins that are not removed with physical exertion and/or sex, our natural immunity to disease gets compromised, and we begin to get sick easier. If this goes on for long enough, we can even develop various immune system deficiency disorders like Asthma, Fibromyalgia, and Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

But unlike the blood, which is pumped through our bodies by the heart, our lymphatic system relies on our muscles to move the lymph fluid to purify the body. Thus, God is telling us through our lymphatic systems that lack of physical exertion and lack of sexual intimacy contributes to making us ill! This means that all of us need to engage in hard physical activity often to stay healthy. Furthermore, it means that we can and should satisfy our sexual needs because it is necessary for our health, whether we're married or not. Of course, when we're not married, or married to someone who is sexually inactive for whatever reason, there is no outlet for our desires to be satisfied other than through massage and masturbation. This is why masturbation is not a sin!

Although we need to control what we think about when we massage our bodies and masturbate to stay healthy, it is not a crime to fantasize about a much younger version of your spouse if you have one, or to fantasize about some imaginary lover if you are an unattached virgin or widow, or you are divorced. Just make sure that you don't fantasize about or lust after any real married people, or you will be committing adultery with your mind. You can think in ways that satisfy your needs, and don't violate your relationship with God by turning your desires over to God, and asking Him to keep your thoughts pure.

We as believers need to understand that sexual desire is a normal response to stimuli, and is often triggered by our lymphatic system's need to be stimulated so it can clear out toxins that are building up in our bodies and making us unwell. So please stop demonizing the pursuit of sexual satisfaction. When we understand how our bodies work, we realize that they are living parables, telling us not only about who God is, but about how wonderfully He made us, and what we truly need to be, stay and get healthy.

Wedded Couple Embracing, Song of Solomon 4:10-11
For those who need biblical proof that this might be true, ask yourself this: if God created us as sexual beings, and God made us in His Image, what makes you think God doesn't have a sexual side? Just reading the Song of Solomon, which is a beautiful ode to love that was included in the Bible, and which features passages shared by two lovers before and after marriage, shows that God approves of romantic and sexual love. I've shared examples from the highly erotic Song of Solomon in the illustrations for this article, and the erotic quote from Chapter 2 of the Song is in reference to the two lovers before they become husband and wife in Chapter 4.

No, God the Father doesn't have a human body like we do, but He is One God with Three Persons, and the Father and the Spirit begat the Son. Think about that, and the fact that God said in regard to Adam and Eve's marriage that the TWO would become ONE flesh or substance. This is also reflected in reference to Yahshua's conception in four places in the First and Second Chapters of the Gospel of John (twice in the first chapter, and twice in the second). There, Yahshua is called the only begotten Son of the Father. Let's look at the dictionary definition of “begotten":

begotten = generated by procreation.” In other words, it's been fathered. A somewhat old fashioned adjective, begotten is the past participle of the verb beget, which means to father or produce as offspring. You might recognize this word from John 3:16, one of the most popular and most often quoted Bible verses:
“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”
So, the Bible is telling us that God fathered Yahshua, and we know He didn't have sex with Mary. So who was the mother? It seems logical that it was the Holy Spirit, Who is called Wisdom and is designated as feminine with the pronoun "she" in Proverbs 8. So we have Three Persons, One God, and the product of the Union of Father and Spirit was the Preincarnate Yahshua or Jesus.

In His Preincarnate state, Yahshua was the part of God that created the Universe, the Earth and all the teeming life on planet Earth. He is also the part of God that physically manifested Himself and walked in the Garden with Adam, and that appeared to Moses and Abraham and spoke with them. The only begotten Son of God also had a human body after His birth from Mary's womb. Although Yahshua was considered to be both fully God and fully man, His human side made Him a physical and sexual being. So then, by inference, God is also a physical and sexual being. As a partly sexual being, Yahshua had sexual needs too, and there is no reason to think that He did not meet them in some sinless, sanctified  way when He had the need.

Again, what the Bible talks about as fornication is sexual intercourse. It is not the act of kissing, hugging or fondling someone else. Also, in most of the Mediterranean and the Middle East, Christian men and women greet each other with a hug and a kiss to each cheek, not a stodgy hand shake. Don't you think Jesus did that, since it was a custom of all of the Abrahamic people of the Middle East until they began to be controlled by Islam? It is clear in Scripture that Yahshua felt affection and love, and so we have to assume that He was not a stranger to the physical need to express it, especially since the Bible tells us that Judas betrayed Yahshua with a kiss.

In Paul's letters, he said that we should not be stumbling blocks to our brethren in regard to customs and traditions, or how we express our faith because some believers were more legalistic than others, when there was no longer a need to be so. This also applies in regard to the way we express affection.

Couple Embracing Under A Tree - Song of Solomon 8:6
If you have been raised with a puritanical mindset, then thinking of physical affection and love may be abhorrent to you. But to someone that has been raised in a culture where physical affection is very much out in the open, this avoidance of physical touch would seem strange and foreign. But Paul said that, for the sake of unity, to not do things that offend others who have not matured in their faith yet when visiting, and in their presence. So we do need to exercise caution with who we are affectionate with.

In summary, we need sex or the equivalent of it to be healthy, and God DESIGNED us that way - as shown by the way our lymphatic system is designed. It's not something you can refute either. Because many studies prove that regular sex in a committed and SPIRITUALLY ATTUNED relationship with the opposite sex can increase your longevity by 5 or more years. Of course, we all must gauge our own ability to show restraint and discipline when engaging in romantic love and foreplay before marriage to avoid sexual intercourse. We need to gauge whether or not we should abstain from sexual foreplay based on our relationship with God, the degree of our sexual desire, and the strength of our own wills to know whether or not we should venture into intimacy before marriage. But after marriage, no more restraint other than sharing your sexual intimacy in private, and doing no harm to one another in the act is necessary.

God bless you all!
With love from
Your Sister In Yahshua,
Helena Lehman

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